We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day here. Well we do, but not on the 14th February. It’s not so much a rejection of the commercialisation around the day (and how unromantic I find doing the same thing as every other couple) but those things are a consideration. The 14th February is my birthday and recently I found celebrating Valentine’s Day then too made the day too crowded. And I felt sorry for my husband who wasn’t feeling the outpouring of love from me when I was busy being the birthday queen. Not that I think he minds but I do!
One year he made me an amazing Valentine’s gift – a collage of photos shaped into a heart. He printed out and cut the photos into squares and made the squares into a heart. What with all the birthday goings on I didn’t really appreciate the gift until a few weeks later. This was the tipping point for me in deciding to spread out the days.
St Dwynwen’s Day
Handily, the Welsh Valentine’s Day, or rather St Dwynwen’s Day, falls a few weeks before Valentine’s Day on the 25th January. We’ve decided to embrace my Welsh heritage and celebrate that day instead. St Dwynwen is the Welsh patron saint of lovers, though she had a bit of a tragic life, you can read more about her here.
Of course, you do not need an arbitrary date to show your loved one that you care! But, a bit like Pancake Day reminds me how much I like pancakes, I’m happy to have another excuse for a date night. In fact, just an evening in sitting down together is a rarity – the kids sometimes are only just asleep before I go to bed myself and there is always tidying up and everything else to do.
So, we celebrated St Dwynwen’s Day this year with a film, wine and nice food. We watched ‘When Harry Met Sally’, my favourite romantic film but one Andy had never seen as apparently he makes a point of avoiding Billy Crystal films. I love, love hearing Nora Ephron’s classic dialogue though and the film makes me laugh and cry. I think it won him over.
We will do a bit of Valentine’s-y stuff with the kids this week though, some baking to take to playdates and heart shaped crafting. And I’m going to a charity performance of Eve Ensler’s Vagina Monologues this week, to raise money for a local women’s charity. The event is part of the V-Day initiative, a global activist movement to end violence against women and girls. I’ve never seen the play before though have heard lots about it and I’m really intrigued.
Have a great Valentine’s Day, however you are celebrating!
About Hue Me Happy
Hue Me Happy is about finding the little rays of sunlight that help keep a sense of balance in every day life. For me these are cups of lovely coffee, a house or garden filled with flowers, time to think and be creative, being outdoors, wine infused evenings with friends and mini-adventures that take me outside of the normal routine. I’m Sian, a 40-something Mancunian mama living in north London.